Monday 9 May 2016

An Afternoon With Betty XII In Rural Kolkata

Darjeeling misty mountain views
Darjeeling streets

Hot Chai is always available

The crowd flocks to tiger mountain Darjeeling in the hope the day will be clear of fog to see the sunrise, this day we were lucky.

Everyone loves a good picture


The prayer flags come thick the closer you get to Tibet

Buddhist Temple Offering

Darjeeling

The life of living in the hills, Darjeeling town sprall 


On the search for something but no one seems to know what, so we stop for chai as this couple welcome us to their home

The search for the field of weed continues, Darjeeling walks

Darjeeling

 Sunrises and the moon sets

 A misty view of the Himalayas at sunrise, Darjeeling


 Tranquil hour with the sound of chanting in the background


 Darjeeling - one of the many Tea Plantations

Sunset over the crowded mountain town

A small town below Darjeeling as this library with the most unusual and interesting collection of books.  These old guys like to hang out here, I wonder what they discuss

A local store - Darjeeling

Kolkata street food

Kolkata lanes

Kolkata flower market, they string the flowers for optimal shrine use

Beautiful and intricate Jainism temple

Jainism temple and garden grounds

An eye for detail



Flower market views

River Ganges through Kolkata, view from Howrah Bridge


Kolkata streets

Victoria Memorial.  The English left some stunning grand architecture, they went more for size than the detail of the Jainism temples

A day at work in the field, community facilitators meeting

Slum visit to weight the some children, some like the scales swining but others don't.

Slum lanes

Community meeting with the mothers for education on nutrition for first 1000days of life

Mothers meeting

Colourful slum, very much a community feel



Mothers meetings aren't very interesting for the children

Bengali education for the mothers

Kolkata streets


 My local street fish market, no ice required despite the sweltering heat


 The local barber in Pailan


 Pailan local shops


 Chicken Butcher - fresh killed and cut chook for your convenience. I wonder if the chickens below know what happens above?


 Family time and business time combines


 Tobacco and weird spice chewing things, everything is curry flavour


 My local street


 Chullah cook stove to the left and curry on the go to the right


 CINI guesthouse, the view from my verandah


 Local store



 Classic bus rides


 Pailan streets


 Women must be covered but men feel free to let their bellies cool off from the heat. Loud bodily noises are also very acceptable even in the middle of mediation


 My local fruit store, pomegranate my breakfast ritual


 Another chicken store, Pailan

 Paneer rolls made fresh


 Pailan streets


 The kitchen staff at CINI


 CINI canteen/dinning room with metal plates


 CINI kitchen staff, everything is done on the ground in India


 One of the children at the nutrition day vaccine clinic, black dot on forehead is to keep evil away


 A rare few men visit the clinic with their wives, often grandmothers or mother-in-laws come while the husband is at work



 Doctor consultations for growth assessment and scripts for the children, often diarrhoea and colds


  Not all the children are happy all the time

 The women and children lining up to fill their scripts



 Holi colour festival

 CINI campus grounds


Holi dust colours
 Dr Chaudhuri, an amazing inspiration, the founder of CINI


 The girls gave me this beautiful sari and come to dress me up



 CINI campus, my home for the last 2months in Pailan


 Pailan streets


 Pailan streets, the rubbish is soul destroying.  Signs promote a 'clean and green Kolkata' but even if the culture changes, there are no bins anywhere

 Pailan delicious street food for 20c

 Local cricket


 Poor chickens






 Pailan streets

 Indians can sleep anywhere! This is one of the better locations compared to the side of the road


 Rickshaw drivers waiting for business




 Just chillin out, Pailan streets
 Pailan shops


 Pailan streets

 Pailan locals, awkward family photo


 Chai wallah


 Pailan local



 Everyone wanted their photos taken, Pailan local


 Plenty of time for relaxing and working


Pailan streets

 Pailan streets

 Pailan streets
 Pailan streets
 Pailan streets
 Pailan streets

Pailan streets
 Pailan streets
 Pailan streets
 Pailan streets, deep friend eggplant and other goods. Indian food is a very high fat diet


 The essentials - potato and onion





 Pailan locals
 Pailan streets
Pailan- my local bus into the city


 Amazing old style bikes



Mens hang out space for cards


As I scan the streets, I see a man sitting in a cement slab structure.  Blood, feathers and fresh killed chicken meat surround him.  There is a large ancient, curved blade, resolute next to him.  The living chickens are crammed in a cage below the slab, stress molting and appear to be living a dismal existence.   The man casually sips his chai, drench from the summer heat.  A break in his working day, he catches my eye.  In a fixed gazed we stare back at each other in a synchronized moment of disbelief.


As the weeks passed I became accustomed to the blatant starring and the culture shock subdued.  However, the starring never seemed to stop for them.  Some stare with an intent look that could’ve been mistaken for wickedness.  Others stare with a shimmer of smile in their eyes, or pure wonder.  At first it’s quite intimidating.  I don’t speak Bengali or Hindi, and few in this rural area speak English.  All I can do is smile.  Body language, a good head nod, and smiling, became my predominant language for next two months. 


Conversational barriers and cultural differences made it a lonely challenge, until one day as I strolled the dusty streets I met Shreoshi.  Shreoshi looked at me with her beautiful big brown eyes as I gave her a pat behind her ear.  She was a middle-aged white cow, slightly too boney with an exhausted look.  She asked me where I was from and to her surprise I answered. 

“You understand cow?” she said shocked, “No one understands me here”. 

“No one understands me here either”, I replied.


We both chuckled and ended up spending the afternoon together.  On the bare dusty ground, in the shade we found relief from the sun but never relief from the humid heat.  We talked like we were old friends.  Shreoshi may have had an exhausted outer appearance, but with the heat who doesn’t, but she talked with a calm enthusiasm and youthfulness.  I got to know that her name was actually Betty the XII, as her family moved to India from England years back.  Her Indian owner had named her Shreoshi, but to her family she was always Betty.   Betty told me of her days roaming the streets and fields, wherever she wanted to go she would slowly strut.  Sometimes she would test the boundaries, like walking in front of a bus, or wandering into shops, humorously delighted that no one cared.  She was free to do whatever she liked, although her English background of good-manners often keeps her out of too much trouble.  Her family had told her tales of the lush England pastures; free of plastic and excessive dust that she so longed to graze, but she was born Indian and this was her home.  She couldn’t complain, she knew she would never end up as beef here.  Plus, she liked the slow pace of the days where her owner would sit with her and his friends drinking chai.  She liked to laze by the village ponds cooling off her underside in the lilly filled water as she watched the women hand-wash their coloured sari’s.  The children would play and take their bath in the water as they didn’t always go to school and if they did it was never for very long.  She likes her village life where everyone lives together, joint and extended families in the one home surrounded by lanes of other extended families.  She tells me of her working day as she is happy to be contribute, her poo mixed with mud can make the village homes.   She also helps the children carry the water from the hand-pump wells.  Her favorite time of day is to watch the kids play cricket.  She tells me, “It’s good to see them playing some sport, Indians don’t like exercise”.  She is a huge cricket fan like the rest of the Nation.   When there is a game on she will lie on the cool mud-dunn verandah floor of her village and listen through the door.  Her owner excitedly yelling at the players as his wife spends hours preparing dinner, filling the house with smoke as she cooks over the challah. 


We share our stories of what we have witnessed.  Agreeing on how gorgeous and lively the children are.  Despite some children traveling miles to run away from unthinkable home conditions, or being stolen for trafficking, or given away by their own parents for child marriage, or street life; they find shelter and joy in the simplest things fighting to keep their child souls full of laughter.  We discuss the unthinkable acts of the male culture and the discrimination against women.  Of course it’s not all bad but it’s shocking what can be accepted.  To grow up as a girl child could be scarily dangerous here.  There is no quick fix but there are many smart people with kind hearts working on a change to come.  I talk to Betty of the confusion of the many contrasts I’ve encountered.   For instance the wealthy that follow the worst trends from western nations with mass consumerism and fast-food chains; ending up overweight with diabetes while the poor wear rags and struggle to afford food.   The cultural indifference between men and women are huge, although the men are still gentlemen giving women priority seating on public transport.  The idol image is Bollywood dancers who wear clothing far from the fully covered requirements of the religious general population.  There are modern malls and restaurants but then there are ancient living conditions.  It’s a culture of inefficiency and patience is required but extreme in-patience is clear when it comes to traffic.  Betty tries to help me understand some of the culture with the many gods and rituals; there is so much to take in.  As the hours pass I decide it’s time to head back to my room where it’s cool and free of chaotic street noise.  I say goodbye to Betty thankful for the afternoon and hoping that she will find more grass to fatten up a little.   


As my placement is coming to an end I’m thankful for the support and lovely people I have met.  Now it’s time for a new adventure, to be back on the road.  I’m tired of people telling me I can’t do anything on my own.  When you’re travelling alone that request is a little hard at times.  I know its not Indian custom to travel without family but I’ve come this far.  I trust in the universe that there are a lot of good people in this world.  If you truly believe than it will manifest.  Nothing so far has given me any reason to believe otherwise, and I will forever look to optimism.  As the months pass in this environment that is so foreign to anywhere I have lived, I’m happy to move on.  I’m craving nature, fresh air, trees, and sights that are beautiful on the eye.  I need to re-awaken my soul because the recent stimulus has caused a fading light.  Before I came I knew it wouldn’t be easy but it wasn’t about me.  I was here for a purpose; I have a skill that sparked a passion to want to contribute.  To be part of something bigger than me, to put in where it might be needed most.  It was by no means any tropical paradise.  My experience has been one of many challenges and insights, but the view from the top of the hill I had to climb will forever stay with me.  After all, how do we grow if we don’t push boundaries?


“Start walking towards shams.

Your legs will get heavy and tired.

Then comes a moment of feeling

The wings you’ve grown, lifting. “

-       Rumi.